“If you are depressed, you are
living in the past.
“If you are anxious, you are
living in the future.
“If you are at peace, you are
living in the present.”
The above is a quote from Lao Tzu,
the legendary founder of Taoism. Legend says he was conceived when his mother
gazed upon a falling star. That excuse
sure wouldn’t work today.
This guy
supposedly remained in his mother’s womb for 62 years before being born while
his mother was leaning against a plum tree.
He was said to have emerged as a grown man with a full grey beard and
long earlobes, both symbols of wisdom and long life. From his mother’s perspective, this gives new
meaning to the pain of childbirth.
Based on
this story, I would suggest that a young woman stay inside at night and if she
happens to catch a glimpse of a falling star, stay away from plum trees unless
she wants to be pregnant for 60 years.
Of one thing we can be sure - after spending 62 years in a womb, old Lao
Tzu wasn’t afraid of the dark.
I guess I
got carried away on this guy Tzu, but the message in the quote is
profound. Sometimes it’s difficult to
let go of the past – especially negative things that come back to haunt
you. Regrets can ruin the pleasure of
the present, or as Tzu says, “The peace of living in the present.”
Anxiety over
the future can be debilitating too. I
can’t count the messages I get via the internet related to living life in the
present. Most of these messages have
flowers, sentimental music and poetic encouragement to
enjoy the day, be loving to others, and if you don't forward this message of love to ten other people, lightening will strike you and you will
die.
I think it
takes practice to cast out negatives from the past and avoid worrying about the
future. Sometimes it helps to consider
how insignificant we are in the context of time and the vastness of the universe. This is paradoxical if you believe that you
are valued by your Creator, who sees a sparrow fall and knows how many hairs
are on your head. His task of counting
my hair gets much easier as time goes on.
F. Scott
Fitzgerald said that “the test of a first rate intelligence is the ability to
hold two opposed ideas in the mind at the same time and still retain the
ability to function.” Cognitive
dissonance is when contradictory beliefs cause mental conflict. That’s the point here.
The idea
that we as individuals have value to our Creator while the solar system we live
in doesn’t even register in the context of the known universe, may be difficult
to grasp. Frankly, I think it makes our
relationship with God more significant, not less. Think about it.
I don’t
know how I veered off topic, because I planned to write about motorcycles. I was going to get into good things from the
past, a la Tzu, but once I start writing, some tangential thought pops up and I
begin to extrapolate from that thought until I’m well into the weeds. Maybe I’ll write a motorcycle story next time.
Loved it Ralph. My personal feeling is the past can not be changed so move on. We have learned in our many years that the mistakes of the past are simply lessons that make us stronger. I must be very strong because I made some doozies. I am better regarding the past, probably because my memory isn't tip top any more. My father was a big time worrier and I received that gene. I'm working on that one now.
ReplyDeleteYour pal,
Jim Loar
I agree that memory wanes with age, but closing the book on things you'd like to forget can be a challenge.
DeleteMay I help you back on track. Your Triumph is both in the past and also in the present. I think you were trying to find out the name of the damsel leaning against the tree. It's called womb fetish. the north
ReplyDeleteA "womb fetish??" You guys do have shrinks up in Canada, eh? But your point about my old Triumph is well taken.
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